the Nerd Love Story of Kaia and Celania
👀 Can your Tolkien hyperfixation get in the way of your Love at First Sight? Love at first sight is rare. But if it happened, what would you do? Would you talk to them or text them first? What if they don’t like you? What if you don’t know what to talk about? What if you have nothing in common? Or worse, what if you overwhelm them with your hyperfixation about Tolkien? There’s only one way to find out. 👇
In this episode, Kaia shares how she managed to date her now-fianceé… with a little help from her boss. 👨🏻💼 Because Kaia knew she wanted to marry Celania as soon as they met. But her social anxiety blocked her from a conversation in person or even via text! 😫
🧝♀️ One of Kaia’s fears was related to her passion for Tolkien’s work. The same hyperfixation that led her to become a Tolkien-centered content creator didn’t help her when relating to others. She knew she would often overshare information about the Lord of the Rings. Way more often (and longer) than most people enjoyed. 🥱
And she was right. However, she didn’t know Celania was into Star Wars and LEGO 🪐 Not LotR. Fantasy and sci-fi can be considered opposite fandoms. But they’re still close enough that they’ll understand each other better than most. Over time, however, they became interested in each other’s passions, which built more trust and security and strengthened their relationship.
🙅♀️ Sometimes, people won’t share your interests or humor. And that’s ok. But if you take small steps and test for their interest slowly, you might find someone who’ll want to spend their life with you 💍
🎧 Listen to this episode to find a partner who enjoys your hyperfixation! 💪
❤️ FREE GUIDE: 🎮
Where (and How) to Meet Your Player 2 Organically
Kaia Kay’s Links:
- https://beacons.ai/kaiakayy
- https://www.instagram.com/kaiakayy/
- https://youtube.com/@kaiakayy
- https://www.tiktok.com/@kaiakays
- https://bsky.app/profile/kaiakayy.bsky.social
- https://www.threads.net/@kaiakayy
Related Episode:
- Text Confession Gone Wrong, No Proper Dates, and Critical Fails
- Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow
- The Tolkien Association
- Find Your Nerd Community
Related Blog Posts:
- Boundaries Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/shields-boundaries/
- Vulnerability Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/be-like-a-barbarian-be-vulnerable/
Timestamps for lazy nerds:
- 00:00:00 Intro
- 00:00:36 What Makes Kaia a Nerd
- 00:02:15 Love at First Sight
- 00:04:01 Fear of Rejection
- 00:05:12 Info-Dumping
- 00:05:59 Afraid to Text Your Crush
- 00:10:07 Testing for Compatibility with Humor
- 00:15:03 Forced First Date
- 00:19:05 Disclosing Your Sexuality
- 00:23:51 Signs of a Good Date
- 00:24:59 Second Date
- 00:26:27 Unprepared for Conversation
- 00:28:47 Avoiding Info-Dumping
- 00:36:15 Dealing with Opposing Fandoms
- 00:40:18 Kaia’s Contacts
