with April
😇 The alternative to being a Nice Guy is often considered to be a Bad Boy 👨🎤 Because many people think that the problem is being a good person. And, sure, some people might be attracted to that… in the short term. But if you’re looking to build a healthy and loving relationship, you may want to look into becoming a Kind Person instead 😌
🖤 In this episode, April returns to share what made her fall for her husband Scott. It wasn’t his wealth (he lived in an RV), or being a nerd (he watched Star Trek and played video games), or his physique (we’ll just believe her with that). It was him being “the kindest man she’d ever known.” 😍
🤔 What sometimes goes wrong with Nice Guys is giving with unspoken (and not agreed upon) expectations (a.k.a. manipulation) and a lack of boundaries. Some examples are giving gifts or doing favors for someone you don’t have a close relationship with, often at your own expense, hoping for them to like you or do something for/with you 🎁
❌ If you feel like you’ve been rejected for being a Nice Guy and you have to turn into a Bad Boy to find a partner, give this episode a listen. You’ll find many ways to become more attractive as a kind, good, and generous person 💪
🎧 Listen now and trade the Nice Guy for the Kind Person!
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April’s Links:
- https://www.instagram.com/legiodith13
- https://www.threads.net/@legiodith13
- https://bsky.app/profile/legiodith.bsky.social
Related Episode:
Related Blog Posts:
- Boundaries Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/shields-boundaries/
- Vulnerability Blog Post: https://www.datelikeanerd.com/skills/be-like-a-barbarian-be-vulnerable/
Timestamps for lazy nerds:
- 00:00:00 Intro
- 00:00:41 Being a Nice Guy
- 00:04:52 Kind-Person Behaviors
- 00:09:07 Working on Your Mental Health
- 00:13:31 Weird Acts of Kindness
- 00:17:18 Boundary Problems with Nice Guys
