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Shy meets Socially Anxious, and Going Slow

by Alex

the Nerd Love Story of Steven and Christin

Do you need to go fast to “avoid the friendzone”? But what if you’re shy? And what if they’re socially anxious? Fast or slow depends on how comfortable both of you feel. Steven and Christin were close friends for several years before anything happened.

Do you need to go fast to “avoid the friendzone”? But what if you’re shy? And what if they’re socially anxious? Fast or slow depends on how comfortable both of you feel. Steven and Christin were close friends for several years before anything happened.

Sometimes the transition from friends to something more is quick and abrupt. Other times, it can take months or years of smooth and gradual change. 🧘‍♂️

🏘️ Even though they grew up in a small German village of 600 people, Steven only remembers becoming aware of Christin around his teenage years. But it wasn’t until many years later, when he left to study and came back to visit, that their deep friendship turned into a romantic relationship.

🎧 Listen to this story if you feel rushed by the common dating advice that gives you a specific number of dates before you end up in the “friend zone”!

Timestamps for lazy nerds:

  • 00:00:00 Intro
  • 00:00:26 Steven’s Hobbies
  • 00:01:32 Growing Up In a Small Village
  • 00:03:01 Are Your Hobbies A Turn-Off?
  • 00:05:20 Becoming Close Friends
  • 00:06:22 Changing Cities
  • 00:07:45 From Friends to Lovers
  • 00:11:52 Taking Your Time
  • 00:14:29 Shy, Introverts, and Social Anxiety
  • 00:16:38 Do Dating Tactics and Strategies Work?
  • 00:19:10 How Long Does It Take?
  • 00:22:31 Leveling Up Your True Self
  • 00:28:42 Be Confident and Know What You Want
  • 00:30:48 Steven’s Contact

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Filed Under: Podcast Tagged With: Dating, Love, Nerd Love Stories, Relationships, shy, Vulnerability

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