the Nerd Love Story of Jose and Julian
What does a natural physical escalation look like? ✋ Physical touch varies from person to person, even within a shared culture. Some people see certain things as friendly that for others are way too intimate, or are only comfortable going slower or faster.
🥋 Julian met Jose’s brother learning Tae Kwon-Do. They started hanging out, and later invited Jose to join them. She didn’t think much of it until almost a year later, when they started spending a lot of time together. So much time, in fact, that her friends kept asking if something was going on. She even went on a trip and he was the first person she was texting every day! That’s when she realized that… she might like him 🤔
😱 After the realization set in, the fears showed up: what if it didn’t work and she lost both a partner and the friendship? Fortunately, she was quite sure he liked her back. They were both comfortable with physical touch with each other, which is not always the case.
🎧 If you’ve been wondering how fast is too fast, or if there’s a right or wrong way to break the physical barrier with someone, give this episode a listen!
Timestamps for lazy nerds:
- 00:00:00 Intro
- 00:00:56 Her Brother’s Friend
- 00:04:02 Hanging Out 1-on-1
- 00:07:40 Fears Around Liking Your Friend
- 00:15:23 Leaving the Friend Zone
- 00:19:58 Breaking the Touch Barrier
- 00:25:41 Differences in Styles of Physical Touch
- 00:33:49 Checking if They’re Comfortable
- 00:37:07 Testing for Interest
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