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Raise Your Shields. Set your Boundaries.

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“You shall not pass”

Gandalf, Lord of The Rings, J.R.R. Tolkien

Just as games have shields to keep your HP from dropping, you can use boundaries to keep yourself from getting hurt, feeling resentful, frustrated, angry, and improve your relationships with others in multiple ways. If you have negative feelings towards someone, it could be that you haven’t set the right boundaries (or that you have no boundaries at all). Boundaries can be a healthy way to solve conflicts without running into an argument or when you can’t reach an agreement.

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Emotions as Status Effects

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“Fear is the path to the Dark Side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering.”

Yoda, Star Wars: Episode I
Antidote, anyone?

Because emotions can have an impact on your personal HP and Stats (a.k.a. buffs and debuffs), I like to think of them as Status Effects: Some might boost your strength while decreasing your Wisdom (Anger); they may leave you paralyzed (Fear); they can be like poison draining your HP (Sadness); or some may make you feel like Mario getting a Super Star (Confidence). 

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New Game +, by Harris O’Malley

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You know the first town at the start of many RPGs? The one full of NPCs that guide you through short Tutorials to show you pretty much all the basic Skills and Items you’ll need? Harris O’Malley is your NPC dating guide in this book, and he covers every step of the journey: from building charisma, to approaching someone, getting the first date, arriving to your apartment, your bed, and even some pretty scary scenarios you might find on the way and how to overcome them.

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Leveling Up

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“If you trust in yourself… and believe in your dreams… and follow your star… you’ll still get beaten by people who spent their time working hard and learning things and weren’t so lazy.”

Terry Pratchett, The Wee Free Men

Why is it so much easier to level up a character than to stick to achieving your personal goals? After all, isn’t it the same when you fail at something as when you’re playing a new game or trying to defeat a boss?

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